It's your book - write it your way, you're the only one who canA few years ago I invested 25p at a school fete buying a paperback called, rather clunkily,
Why Good Girls Don't Get Ahead...But Gutsy Girls Do, by
Kate White. It turned out to be one of the most inspiring and thought-provoking books I've ever read.
Its main argument is that girls are brought up to be pleasers, to play by the rules, and while this works just fine at home and school, take this attitude to the workplace and you will never be a high achiever or fulfill your potential.
But it also discusses the importance of trusting your gut feeling. When Kate was editor-in-chief at McCall's, one of her jobs was to select the cover photo, knowing that her choice could make newsstand sales fluctuate by several hundred thousand copies. Deliberating her first cover for September, she saw a paparazzi shot of Demi Moore; 'it practically took my breath away and I decided in that instant, "This is the cover".'
As she showed the touched-up photo round the office, people voiced concerns. Demi did not have the usual 'buy-me' smile; the background was black; a pregnant Demi was about to appear nearly naked on the cover of August's Vanity Fair. Kate began to have doubts.
Then she remembered her initial 'oooooh' reaction. She decided to go ahead.
The issue sold 300,000 more copies than the September issue of the year before. She said she learned how easy it is to get talked out of going with your gut when the pressure is on.
The moral of this post? Listen to the advice of others, but go with your gut feeling. Don't let people talk you out of your own certainty.