Sunday, 26 October 2008
Men and women, sex and writing...
The other day I criticised a fellow unpublished writer for making his heroine think about her fiancé:
Sex with ***** was good - and it was frequent.
I told him women tend not to think about sex like this - it's a thought a man is much more likely to have. And it got me thinking about gender differences, and how they affect the way we write, particularly about sex.
Reading sex scenes written by the opposite sex is an education. As a crude generalization, men appear entranced by the mechanics (they'll tell you their hero is getting an erection) while women's interest is more romantic and diffuse. Women will go for quality rather than quantity, and hugs, hand holding, significant conversation and emotion are an important part of the picture.
In fact, considering the difference between an average seduction scene written by a man, and one written by a woman, it's a wonder the planet ever came to be so over-populated.
Posted by Lexi at Sunday, October 26, 2008